Finding Out Your Child Has Diabetes

dealing with diabetesFinding out your child has diabetes can be a frightening, daunting experience, unless you are a diabetic yourself and can understand the disorder and what it involves in relation to lifestyle changes.

You will experience many emotions; you may feel angry that your child has to go through life coping with diabetes; you may blame yourself/selves and feel you might have been the cause, you will be afraid for your child and yourself/selves, there may be a sense of panic, and then there is the big question of how will you cope?

Do not panic, there are many resources available to you, the medical team will support you, they will be organized, well informed and supportive, use them, they are there for you and your child. They will be able to guide you through every step of the way throughout your child’s life.

Do not allow your fear to transfer to your child, children cope extremely well when there is encouragement and support around them.

There are several online resources that have been developed by families such as yours, find them, make friends and you in turn will find yourself becoming a support for others, there are articles such as this and more in-depth medical descriptions available, there will be groups with telephone numbers and contact details for help in the area you live in, use them.

Type 1 Diabetes -Juvenile Diabetes – Diabetes Mellitus will be explained to you in full by your medical team once diagnosis has been made, a simple, brief outline of the disorder is that there is a hormone produced by an organ in the body called The Pancreas and the hormone is called Insulin.

A hormone is a mix of chemicals its job is a life giving messenger in the body. Glucose is collected by the Insulin. When food is eaten it is broken down and distributed around the body for various uses, Glucose is the result of food that has been altered by the liver.

The job of Insulin is to collect Glucose and deposit it into cells around the body as an energy supply.

Glucose is an important ingredient; it is a basic fuel, an energy supply for an engine, without it complications will occur and the engine will seize up or stop altogether.

Insulin also stops proteins and fats from breaking down, these are also required by the body as a source of energy.

If the Insulin is not produced the effect is a bit like a runaway train, the Glucose builds up , the proteins and fats breakdown at a rapid pace, this leaves the body, tired and weak, the problem worsens if not corrected quickly.

Insulin needs to be replaced fast. In Juvenile Diabetes the way this is carried out is through an injection of artificially reproduced Insulin.

The thought of injecting your child or your child having to do the injecting themselves will probably be an overwhelming emotion, again you will not be alone, the correct methods and practical sessions are taught to you all by the Diabetic support team, they have booklets, pictures and practice tools readily available to assist you and your child, the main factor is to keep calm and do not relay your anxieties, your child will cope surprisingly well, also extra stress brings on an anxiety state that will burn extra energy and will not help your child’s diabetes.

The intake of food is a key factor in keeping the diabetes under control, there has to be a good balance of Glucose and Insulin, a dietician who is well read in the care of the diabetic will encourage you and guide you through the necessary changes in your child’s diet.

It might be an ideal time for the whole family to change or rethink their eating habits. Problems will probably arise with siblings objecting to change, they need to be encouraged to become supportive but they will also need support, it will be frightening for them too, they might secretly worry if it will happen to them, they might be resentful of the diabetic sibling for bringing these changes into the home, they may resent the extra attention that is paid to your diabetic child, do not block them out, if they are of an age where they can understand what is going on, ask their advice on diet changes, find out what they are willing to do for their brother or sister, you may be pleasantly surprised by what a family chat will bring about.

Your diabetic child must be made to feel normal, they might not want the whole world knowing they have diabetes; you will have to explain there are people who will need to know but will respect their privacy where possible.

Teenagers may rebel a little and experiment with alcohol and change their healthy diet for that of the junk food lifestyle, this needs to be addressed as calmly as possible, you will lose a little of the control you have had with their diabetes, you will have to ride a few storms but they will probably not last long.

Children can be picky eaters and they can also use food as a weapon for attention, use your resources, and find out how others coped.

Children are often described as “little bundles of energy” and your diabetic child will want to run and play with the rest, however if they have not prepared their body for this extra activity then it can have upsetting consequences, for example they may burn off too much energy (Glucose) and become drowsy or appear to faint, they will need an intake of glucose quickly, a sugared drink, glucose sweets or sweet biscuits will help quickly restore the body to a safe level again, this type of event is known as a Hypoglycaemic attack, hypo=low.

Hyperglycaemia is too much Glucose this over rides the Insulin, children may take the kind offerings of another child in the form of sweets and biscuits, you will need to explain that this can damage their health further, they will become thirsty and lethargic, showing some signs they may have had before diagnosis was made.

Teachers, club leaders, friends and family are all there waiting to give you support, they want to know what to do in the event of a crisis, tell them, get them the instructions you have been given, get them on-board, if they are going to be in loco parentis (in place of a parent) then they have a right to be informed and equipped with the knowledge required.

Parties, illness and travel can all have an effect on the everyday routine of the diabetic child, it is important that you as the parent/parents are organized and aware. Use your support teams, find out from your child whether they have noticed any obvious warnings signs that might indicate the onset of a Hypoglycameic attack, keep a diary of such events, you might find a trigger or cause.

Never feel you have failed as a parent and most importantly never see your child as doomed, diabetic children lead active lives and go on to have families of their own. The medical team grows with them, it takes them into adulthood, and they continue to support well adjusted adults.

Enjoy your child, watch them grow, just stay calm and know you are not alone.

Visiting The Dead

cemeteryDying is a big business that only few people can afford.

Following Mark Twain´s recommendation that one should visit a cemetery when one suffers from a spell of sadness, so I did.

I am not a person to worship the dead every week or every month, but I like doing it once in a while, especially when in this cemetery I have my mother.

It was a fine day of early autumn and, in fact, it was really hot. This is a city cemetery. Therefore, it is huge.

It is difficult to find one’s way among the graves and the hole recesses on the wall. It seems that even in cemeteries there are different classes of people.

The rich have enormous marble graves with statues and loads of flowers.Why go through that cost? Why not make a headstone from glass, fiberglass or some other less expensive material?

The poor are mainly located on walls. Little plates show their names and the their birth and death dates. Most of these hole recesses won’t be forever.

The family of a dead will have paid some money to have him there for a number of years. On finishing the lease, they will be removed and buried in what is known as a common grave.

When I pass by these enormous graves, I think of how much money some families are ready to spend.

The dead person won’t see it, but it seems to me sort of showing off to the public that passes them by.

People may think that this person was very much loved when he or she was alive, but I know well that we only appreciate people when they have departed forever.

Wouldn’t it be worth giving this big money to some charity or medical fund? Something that actually benefits the living rather than the dead who can’t use it in any way?

The more I visit a cemetery the more I think that I don’t wish to be buried to rot. If there is something which is still valid I want it to be used on someone else.

Dying is a big business.

Everything costs.

The laid-in in a funeral home is something that only a few can afford. The dead person would have made up and dressed up so as to disguise the signs of the illness he or she suffered.

Many people will pass by the dead to bid farewell and there will be those who probably forgot about him when he was still alive, battling with his illness. Everybody writes flattering words for the deceased.

It seems that the more flowers and people pouring in the burial and the funeral the more this person was loved and cherished.

But were they really?

Have We Learned Our Lesson?

have we learned anythingThis may be a little out of character, but watching all the news lately and seeing what’s going on with the new president and all, I just had to vent.

Have we learned our lesson?

It’s been a rough one but maybe it has seeped into our hard heads.

This attitude of “I deserve it now” “I want it all now” was for the birds from the get go. It couldn’t last. We can’t have it all right now.

We let the money-changers tell us we could and look what happened. It all blew up in our faces.

Now we can return from the fiasco with a new attitude. We can live simply within our means and understand that we can’t have it all right now.

Will We Learn Our Lesson

When anyone tells you to sit back on your hinny and receive 15 or 20 percent on your money, don’t you know it’s really not going to happen? Making money isn’t that easy.

And don’t we know debt driven consumer spending won’t work either? Not to pull us out of this mess we are in. It’s going to take honest work and production.

We’re going to have to forget these selfish ideas that psychologists and financiers have fed the public, It was foolish to begin with and those who fell for it are feeling the pinch, along with those who knew better all the time.

This jive about ” I deserve it all” “I’m worth it” The truth is we don’t deserve it unless we can pay for it. And to make money we have to produce a product that sells. Be it in a factory, business, technology or anything else that results in sales.

Big banks and mortgage companies sitting on top of the heap, grabbing interest with both hands from wild consumer spending, will hopefully no longer exist in the previous fashion according to this website.

They are being investigated for all the fast deals they have pulled. We now find many homes have been foreclosed on illegally, and banks and mortgage companies will pay.

Some are already paying millions for unsavory deals.

For years we let them go their merry way, until they have caused the whole system to tumble.

It’s basically what happened in the Great Depression, and it will happen again. The reckless profiteers were chastised and regulated, and a welfare safety net was put in place.

Franklin Roosevelt said,

Unscrupulous money-changers have fled from from their high seats in the temple of our civilization. We may now restore that temple to the ancient truths.

Perhaps these ancient truths were, decency, fairness, respect, hard work, loyalty, caution and integrity.

We have admired our villains and helped them siphon the money out of our pockets.

We made it easy for them to cheat and lie by harping, “I deserve it” “I’m worth it” “I want it all now” Maybe a lesson has been learned.

Maybe we can learn to live simply within our means, and consume more wisely.

Maybe we will teach our children the values of our grandfathers.

Bereavement and Anxiety

anxiousChildren who experienced the death of a parent were compared to clinically depressed children and a control group in this study measuring anxiety.

None of the bereaved children met the DSM-III-R criteria for anxiety disorder, although an increase of anxiety was recorded.

Anxiety about the possible death of another family member were slightly higher eight weeks after the death than immediately after the death. Especially when the child was at the funeral.

Source: Sanchez, L, Fristad, M, Weller, R.A. and Moye, J. Anxiety in acutely bereaved prepubertal children. Annual of Clinical Psychiatry, 1994, 6 (1): 39-43.

The child’s adjustment after the death of a parent.

In a study conducted with school children bereaved and non-bereaved children were compared.

Shortly after the death of a parent very little difference was found in measures of emotional well-being.

However, after two years the bereaved children showed higher levels of social withdrawal, social problems and anxiety as well as lower levels of self-esteem.

In approximately 20% of the bereaved children these levels were such as to indicate that the children would benefit from professional assistance.

Source: Worden, J.W. & Silverman, P.R. Parental death and the adjustment of school-age children. Omega: Journal of Death and Dying, 1996, 33 (2): 91-102.

Child development and concept of death

This study found no difference in an accurate concept of death (using Piagetian theory) between children who have experienced the death of a sibling and children who have not experienced bereavement. Coming up with ideas for funeral memorial services seemed to connect the child with the adult passing.

The study also discovered that 45.7% of the 5 year olds had an accurate concept of death, as did 60% of the 6-8 year olds and 90-100% of the 9-12 year olds.

Source: Cain, A.C. and Lohnes, K.L. Identificatory symptoms in bereaved children: a diagnostic note. Journal of Development, 16(4), 282-284: 1995

Gender differences in school adjustment after parental separation.

In a study to determine what factors were related to adjustment in school after parental separation some differences were found between boys and girls.

Those girls who reported less blaming of their mother and who reported that mother had positive things to say about the father exhibited good adjustment.

With the boys the following was related to good adjustment: both parents having positive things to say about each other, less blaming of the father for the separation, low fear of abandonment, and good parenting skills by the mother.

Source: Oppenheimer, K., Prinz, R.J. and Bella, B.S. Determinants of adjustment for children of divorcing parents. Family Medicine, 22(2), 107-111, 1990.

Childhood bereavement and adult depression.

Among adults who had experienced the death of a parent in childhood, those who reported a warm, supportive relationship with the surviving parent, freedom from over-protectiveness and having had opportunities to actively grieve displayed lower levels of depressive experiences as adults than those who experienced the opposite.

Source: Saler, L. and Skolnick, N. Childhood parental death and depression in adulthood: roles of surviving parent and family environment. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 62 (4), 504-516, 1992.

What helps a child to mourn?

In this self-report study children mentioned talking to family members, talking to God, yelling, out-of doors activities and art work as being helpful to them in their mourning.

Source: Lehna, C.R. Children’s descriptions of their feelings and what they found helpful during bereavement. American Journal of Hospital and Palliative Care, 1995, 12 (5): 24-30.

Pre-death and post-death anxiety and depression.

Among children with a parent dying of cancer high levels of anxiety and depression were noted. After the death of the parent the level dropped to normal with seven to twelve months

Source: Siegel, K., Karus, D. and Raveis, V.H. Adjustment of children facing the death of a parent due to cancer. Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 1996, 35 (4): 442-450.

Stability after the death of a parent leads to normal developmental patterns.

The researchers compared children who have experienced the death of a parent with two groups: “normal” school children and depressed in -patients. When a stable home environment was provided for the bereaved children, measures of behavior, self-esteem, interest in school, peer involvement, and peer enjoyment resembled those of the “normal” children.

Source: Fristad, M.A., Jedel, R., Weller, R.A., and Weller, E.B. Psychosocial functioning in children after the death of a parent. American Journal of Psychiatry, 1993, 150(3): 511-513.

“Relationship” with deceased parent leads to effective grieving.

This study took a look at intervention groups for grieving children to see if there were any common threads in effective grieving. One thing they found was that an important aspect of grieving was to maintain an emotion attachment to an internal image of the deceased parent. Rather than encourage children to “put the past behind them”, it would seem that it would be helpful to help the child strengthen the inner representation of the parent.

Source: Lohnes, K.L. and Kalter, N. Preventitive intervention groups for parentally bereaved children. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry: 1994, 64(4): 594-603

Lung Cancer Stages

woman getting cancerAs with each alternative kinds of cancers, lung cancer is additionally considered a life-threatening downside based mostly on lung cancer statistics.

Active or passive smoking and an excessive amount of contact with air pollution and unsafe chemical compounds will augment the chance of developing lung cancer.

There are many varieties of cancer of the lung and based mostly on cancer of the lung figures, ninetieth to ninety fifth of those conditions typically starts on the liner of the bronchioles and bronchi.

The cancers could disperse to varied components of the body quickly and acquire to the bones, adrenal glands, liver and brain.

As a result of the filtered blood coming back from the lungs pass to alternative areas of the body, the possibility of metastasis is pretty high.

The initial warning signs of this disease generally go undetected.

Throughout the initial stage of cancer of the lung, the signs and symptoms comprises respiratory issue, chronic cough, shoulders, chest and back pain, blood in sputum, repeating pneumonia or bronchitis, joint pains and loss of appetite.

Some sufferers stricken by such ailment typically don’t notice the symptoms till the cancer is identified via routine testing like x-rays.

When the cancer reached the adjoining structures or tissues, or the distant bones, a spread of signs are shown as well as the following:

* Persistent cough

* respiratory difficulties and wheezing

* Coughing with a tinged of blood

* Shoulder ache

* Pain within the chest

* Pain on the arms

* Vocal twine issues, that ends up in hoarseness

* injury to components within the lungs that lead to increased quantity of lung infections and abscesses

* Persistent pneumonia

* surprising weight loss

* Extreme exhaustion

* Depressive disorder and mood swings

* issue ingesting

* Unbearable pain on places where cancer has gotten to the bones

* Extreme production of hormone cortisol

* Excessive levels of calcium in blood

When the cancer has reached the brain, signs or symptoms like headache, convulsions and blurred vision are noticed.

Additionally, it will show stroke-like warning signs, like loss of sensation and weakness.

Prognosis of Advanced Cancer of the Lung

In accordance with lung cancer statistics 2016, this cancer affliction is considered the foremost tough to handle among all kinds of cancers.

Medical doctors normally seek for the indications using bone scans, CT scans, sputum cytology, biopsy and x-rays.

These tests can even facilitate verify the simplest treatment resolution.

Considering that the cancer is at its advanced stage and has already unfold to varied body components, surgical removal of the tumor isn’t attainable.

The continuing development of the tumor can also be laborious to handle.

However, with regards to the symptoms and the way a lot of cancer has distributed, radiation therapy and chemotherapy will nevertheless be suggested.

Brain radiation may be implemented to require care of the initial unfold of cancer inside the brain.

Metastatic resolution for lung cancer, nevertheless, could lead to exhaustion, short-term loss of memory, vomiting, and nausea and baldness.

In advanced phases of carcinoma of the lung, the treatment choices are targeted on minimizing the pain sensation and improving the indications.

Overall life expectancy for carcinoma of the lung is five years with 16 PF survival rate. this is often somewhat low compared to alternative cancer sorts.

Carcinoma of the lung is recognized as a debilitating and distressing affliction.

So always choose an exhaustive medical diagnosis after you noticed early signs of the illness. an equivalent issue goes for those stricken by delicate scoliosis.

If undiscovered and untreated, this might cause severe conditions that can’t be treated with surgery.

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